Phil,
Welcome to Louisville and to the Forum!
There is a dining club called Bon Vivant Savant- the owner/organizer Jo posts on here sometimes. Their website is:
http://www.bonvivantsavant.com. There is also a local chapter of AIWF, but they unfortunatelty seem to have become a lot less active.
For Groceries- Doll's, and Pauls's Produce on 22 has a great selection of gourmet foods. If you are into cooking, you have to make a trip to Creation Gardens ( downtown)- they sell to many of the top restaurants you named and also sell retail. Also, there used to be this great litle place out on the East End called " Gourmet for Everyone'...But that's another story...
Lots more wonderful places to add to your list; these come immediately to mind:
Seviche- a "must visit". They also host monthly Latin Wine/Food dinners each featuring the foods/wines of a different Latin country- they might be a good way to meet "like-minded" people.
Volare
Corbett's
Mojitos
Z's Fusion
Artemesia
Lilly's
Meridian Cafe ( breakfast or lunch)
Cafe Lou Lou
Comeback Inn
The Oakroom
Jeff Ruby's ( best Steak in town in my opinion- I never "got" Pat's; I've been told it's a Louisville thing)
Captain's Quarters Riverside Grille
Carly Rae's
Deb