Alison Hanover wrote:I don't understand. How will the restaurant you are speaking about a) know it is them, and b) know which waiter you are talking about? Is it because the owner of the restaurant knows you and knows you were in that night? You seem fairly confident that the waiter in question will be fired. Is this because he is easily identiable. Bigotry is nasty in any shap or form, but I would have thought it would have been a lot more satisfactory to complain to the owner or manager at the time.
Thanks for the questions, Alison- I'll elaborate some...
a) Like Gary said, we're a very tight-knit community. I have one of the biggest mouths, so to speak. The Chef's work here- impeccable (one of our best, I think.) I've followed the Bar Manager's work for years- he's that good. The FOH Manager is one of the sweetest and hard-working people I know. This place is firing on all cylinders- indeed becoming an institution, quickly. Many of this staff have worked alongside of me- so yeah, they know me quite well.
b) These are smart restaurateurs- not that I looked, but I'm assuming they have installed cameras in their establishment. The first place one does this is the bar. That's where we were sitting. I never said the individual in question was a server, just that they were at the computer. They did not have a uniform on designating their AOE. Still- 'go back to the tape.'
c) I wasn't calling for the person to get fired, but I do know that these kinds of behaviors tend to be habitual and that that person will sooner or later wear out their welcome. This kind of stuff is an affront to everything we all work for. Truthfully, I am a pussycat compared to some of the big-dogs in our business.
d) 'Telling the owner or manager'- A really bad idea. Situations like this get me chewing steel, as you can tell- I begin saying things that I later regret. There's no fixing this at the meal- you can comp the whole thing and I'll still be upset. Rightfully so. What happens when a black family comes in? Or a single camping lady? Or the difficult child? Or an ex-girlfriend with her new boyfriend? Answer- you treat them like family, because that's what we do.
What he did was undermine the hard work of that exceptional Chef, that Bar Manager, that FOH Manager. Indeed, every person who works their hind-end off in that restaurant. I was presenting my friend with his 'New Favorite Restaurant.' He dines out about six nights a week and at his station in life, money really isn't an issue- so do the math.