Alan H wrote:So what would you do..?
Alan,
Your asking for help on this one so I assume you are somewhat torn by this issue. It is truly an issue seen from many perspectives. Your policy of providing priority seating for police, fire, EMS, and the military is I believe your prerogative. I leave the disabled out of this because my comments are not germane to that group. Simply, if you feel it is the right thing then you should do it regardless of how others feel.
However, if you are doing this because you feel you're under some obligation to those performing in those roles or if you are doing it because you feel you should conform to the current trend in American society which deems these groups as “special” then I wish to offer you something else to consider.
I am a military retiree (2003) and I have seen this issue from both sides. I have observed and been on the receiving end of special treatment afforded the military since the 1st gulf war. I have been given upgrades on flights, discounts at stores, and I've often been thanked for my service. I have always felt uncomfortable about this treatment. I chose my profession just as anyone else chooses any profession. I wanted to do it for personal reasons and I assure you those reasons were no more selfless or noble than those of anyone who chooses any other profession. I don't believe that I deserved any special treatment or thanks for my military service.
More and more I've seen members of the uniformed services taking advantage of their position to collect perks. They show up in uniform at sporting events and shopping malls and restaurants and I think that many of them feel entitled to the attention afforded them. I am somewhat disgusted by this attitude and I feel it is ample evidence that these members do not in fact belong on a pedestal. There are “special” people in the uniformed services but being a member of one of these groups does not make them all heros. There are special people engaged in all forms of employment and heros only become apparent by circumstance.
Military members, firefighters, or police officers, showing up at Captains Quarters at 7:00 on a Friday night likely know of your policy and are expecting to take advantage of it. I would say that if your offering it to them then there is nothing wrong with them excepting it. I also think that if they are on call because of their profession then they are no more deserving of special treatment than the therapist, doctor, network administrator, or any of dozens of other professions that are on call or are taking dinner while on duty. I would feel very guilty about by-passing people who had waited for a long time. But again I think that society has nurtured a sense of entitlement in our uniformed services.
If such a group wishes to dine at your restaurant while on duty (especially during peak hours) and you wish to accommodate them then I don't feel that it would be too much to ask for them to have a reservation.